"nursing" is a broad term - CNA, LPN, LVN, RN... but my guess is you mean RN.
I got to say there is nothing in your note that would make me think you want to be a nurse for anything other then the money. If that's the case, it's unlikely that you are meant for this career. There is a 20% dropout of RNs in the first year and an additional 13% leave the career within the 2nd year. At this point in your life, spending 3-5 years on an ADN or BSN only to drop out in 2 years is not going to get you anywhere but in debt.
What did you want to do with your degree?
The thing is you are in the job you are in because of you. When was the last time, you sent out a resume? Was it even a different job or was it a different place?
- You can get a CNA in a few weeks, then you can see what nursing is like
- Or move into administration.
But mom is right = if you don't have a job that provides benefits (health, retirement, etc), you pay for them yourself. Even if the job has a 401K or similar plan, you still need to create your own retirement because that is unlikely to be large enough to provide you with living expenses.
your mom is right. Plus she's trying to keep you from spending a lot more on education and not being able to pay for it. With a psych degree and being in DC then why aren't you working for the federal government? or at the very least the county in a psych position. I don't think anyone can afford the rent in DC so living at home is ok, but remember to pay your parents some rent. If you want a job helping people in the health field take a 14 week CNA course and then get your state license to work and try it out, and if you like it (which it's a stressful job) then go for nursing.
besides working for the government, well people with psych degrees go on to get their Masters or go into business and get a business Masters. If you go into nursing with a psych degree they'd probably think you want to work in the psych ward. You don't sound like that's what you want. Some people with a psych degree work for Social Services but those jobs don't pay well. If you want to be a psychologist like in a team of 3 or 4 who are doing business together (maybe counseling young people, or maybe for drugs, or maybe a psychologist hired by some woman's shelter) you'd need a MSW.
29 and still using your parents as an excuse for your failings- that is not good. It's past time for you to stand on your own two feet.
If you can't do anything else, then join the military. It will get you out of the house, and get you money to go back to school for nursing or whatever. A change of place and contact with people with a purpose would likely do you good. You can't stay in your current pattern forever, you may as well try something new.
I hate to speak against anyone's parents (being one myself), and I also recognise that there are always two sides to every dispute, but: it's your life, and you should do as you think is right. I would be saying that even if you were 19, and you're 29! Cut the apron strings and make your own decisions, rather than have them made for you! You've given it seven years, so clearly your mother/parents can't say you're disregarding their advice, but if it's not working it's not working - time to try something different, methinks!
At your age I don't understand why it is that you need your mother's approval and support to do anything. While it's nice to have, not to have it shouldn't matter. So do what you want to do. After all, it is YOUR life; not hers. If you screw up she can say "I told you so" and while even that would sting, so what? Find someone else to confide in; see a therapist if you have to.
You guys are all correct it's probably both my mom is a little unsupportive and controlling in her ways but in too old to care and I need to take responsibility for my life. Thanks
You're an adult, and have been for over a decade. You don't need mommy to "be supportive." Stop whining, and do what you want - save for school, save for retirement, find a cheap place to live on your own, train for a better career. It's your life, YOU do something about it.
You're 29. Time to stop depending on mom to support you and go do what you want to do.
I suggest you grow up
You want retirement start an IRA, don'tdeend on other people
She says my generation thinks to much and we should just work as she did.
Your problem is more like you don't THINK, period. It is past time for your parents to KICK YOU OUT.
