You need to first have a confidence that you are the best candidate for the job, and need to get that message to the person doing the interview. The second thought is that the company or business hiring is looking to buy your time. Although they are in charge of hiring, you are in charge of whether to accept and whether to keep working there. The third thought is that everyone is just another person. Do not think of the term "boss". The person interviewing is a manager. They manage people and projects. Boss is in charge of slaves. You are always free to go. Even Bill Gates and Warren Buffett and all other billionaires still use the toilet facilities just like everyone else. They cannot hire someone to do it for them. The hiring manager could earn more money, and have more responsibilities, but he or she is no better than you.
You need practice in learning the right answers to common questions. You can ask people to help as practice interview, but better than that is also knowing what the interviewer wants to hear as an answer. As long as it is not a provable lie, it is an acceptable answer.
Responses should be almost automatic.
"Would you like a coffee?" - Yes, I would love a cup of java.
"Why should I hire you?" - Because I believe I'm the best person you'll meet for this job. I'm dedicated and believe in the success of the business.
"What is an important event in your life?" - When I graduated xxxx school, I felt that my years of hard work have finally paid off, and now I'm ready to contribute.
or - When my grandmother died, I got depressed for a while. But I learned that all things change, and we get stronger by things that happen. I feel very good about life and all future adventures.
etc.
Think of all the possible questions and what a good answer would be. An interview is about acting and sales. You are playing a role and selling yourself.
Look up some common interview questions and answers then practice with some one that can give you honest feed back. Practice can help give you confidence which can help with your nerves.
The interviewer may expect you to be a bit nervous, every one gets some what nervous when it comes to job interviews.
You want to be your self but also show some interest in the position and a bit of enthusiasm for it. But you also want to let them know you're willing to do the job and take it seriously.
You don't have to make direct eye contact, look at some thing around their eyes or on their forehead. Try not to use I don't know as an answer.
When you go to an interview the employer wants you to do well because they are looking for someone to fill the job vacancy. With each candidate that enters the room the employer is telling themselves "I hope this is the person I want to employ". The employer is already on your side so take confidence in that.
Not looking at someone during a conversation is rude and is taken a sign of deceit and dishonesty. Employers understand that some people are shy and nervous but you must get over this. Practice by looking at other people in the eye when you are not in a stressful situation. Good people to practise on are cashiers in the store. You don't know them but you can look them in the eye, speak to them (if only please and thank you) and then you can walk away (giving you a sense of control over the situation). The more you practise the easier it will become. Remember that you don't have to hold eye contact all of the time but if you have to look elsewhere look up or to the side rather than down.
Practice interviews with a parent or friend. I don;t know why you have a problem with someone who may be your boss. They are just people, like anyone else. There is nothing special about them.
